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Posted on Wednesday, April 09, 2014 11:36 PM
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Posted on Sunday, January 26, 2014 6:44 PM
Problem vs. Solution Focus
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Found
this quote below. Sometimes, we really do need to focus in on,
and deconstruct, issues, if only to raise our own consciousness of their
essential components and/or of the issues themselves. There also comes
a point where:
"If I focus on the problem, the problem gets bigger. If I focus on the solution, the solution gets bigger."
Thank you to Twitter @jonniqueen (whoever you may be!?) for this one. |
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Posted on Sunday, November 24, 2013 9:35 PM
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David I. Brandt, LCSW: Posted on Sunday, November 03, 2013 8:54 PM
Honest for Whom™
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How many times have we heard: “Honesty is the best policy.” Or, “Be Real." Or, “I tell it like it is." Or, "I pull no punches.” Or, “I say exactly what is on my mind.” Whereas, in general, "the truth will set you free”, there are several situations where it may be better to think before we speak, or, in other words, where “discretion is the better part of valor”! |
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Posted on Saturday, October 26, 2013 10:12 PM
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David I. Brandt, LCSW: Posted on Saturday, October 26, 2013 9:55 PM
Enlist Them in Your Bind™
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When we want to tell someone something that is not so easy to tell - that might even be somewhat confrontational or “loaded" in nature - and we find ourselves in conflict, and equivocating, over how to tell them, there is a technique that may well be of some use!
A parent may have to set a limit for a child who he/she knows is not going to like it. A husband, wife or partner may need to explain some behavior to his/her spouse. |
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David I. Brandt, LCSW: Posted on Saturday, October 19, 2013 8:59 PM
Shared Meaning™
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All too often we converse with each other yet seem to be having two different conversations. One is speaking about apples and the other is speaking about oranges, though we think we are talking about the same things.
The truth is we each process our experiences and interactions through our own subjective filters that are born of multiple sources (such as family of origin influences, genetics, what we've learned, self-esteem needs, peer interaction history, past traumas, projection, etc. |
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David I. Brandt, LCSW: Posted on Sunday, September 22, 2013 4:53 PM
Approach, Tone and Attitude™
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All too often we take the ones we are closest to the most for granted. We feel that "they know us" or that they will love us unconditionally, and thus we can say whatever we want to say however we want to say it. The assumption is usually that they will simply "understand what we mean".
First of all, what I have found from working with couples in couples therapy (and parents and children in family therapy) is that this is exactly NOT true! |
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Posted on Friday, September 20, 2013 2:16 PM
 I try not to use too much jargon!
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